3 years ago100+ Views

So I just want to make it clear that I'm not a girl.

But I did read an interesting piece by a female Giants fan on a different Giants community site and wanted to share it with the rest of the Giants fans on Vingle.
*You can check out the original piece here ---> It is exhausting being a female sports fan.
Look, I get it, it's exhausting being a sports fan, period. But imagine every opinion you have being attributed to everyone who is like you. Imagine facing backlash for stating your opinion just because of who you are. Imagine the people you admire who work in relation to the sport you love saying things that mock you. And antagonizing you if you have the audacity to say something about it. And not only that, but by singling you out, they unleash their hordes of followers upon you to do their dirty work for them. And because of that, reading some of the most hateful, sexist garbage you've ever seen in your life.
As a woman, you don't get to just be a sports fan. You have to fight for your right to deserve to be there in the eyes of a lot of male fans. Men who see me wear my Giants hat demand me to prove my knowledge of the Giants (and nine times out of ten it is higher than their own). Men who see me wear my Warriors hat call me a bandwagoner. Because there's no WAY I could have been following these teams before they were winning championships. They don't say "Hey did you see that game last night?" They say "When did you buy that hat? Last week?" and laugh.
And when you're a woman who is a fan of a male dominated sport, which involves a ton of casual sexism - what do you do? Do you let it slide? Or do you say something? On behalf of women everywhere, you're supposed to say something. But god help you if you do. You could have the most innocuous response, and you're still going to get the most human-garbage responses, and have people you admire back them up.
Don't believe me? Well, I've been there twice just in the last month or so. Once with Andrew Bogut, of the Warriors (who has since redacted all of his tweets, except for the one where he re-posted what I sent to him in the first place) and once with Murph from the Murph and Mac show on KNBR. Neither were explicitly rude to me, but the insidious thing they both did was re-post what I said to them, so that they didn't have to say anything to me. Because their followers did it for them. They both hid behind humor, implying that women need to have a sense of humor about sexist jokes.
Look - dudes, we get that you are making a joke. We are telling you that the joke you are making isn't funny. When you mock feminism, as Bogut did, or you use "playing like a girl" as an insult as Murph did, you are mocking women - women that watch your team or listen to your show. In Murph's case, you are insulting female athletes. There's nothing wrong with playing like a girl. There are so many incredible female athletes that don't get the same level of attention, praise or pay that their male counterparts get. And maybe we should look at the athletic developmental opportunities afforded to both genders before we say one is superior to the other, as many of Murph's followers did. Men are encouraged to pursue sports as a profession, women as a hobby.
It is just exhausting having opinions about sports, as a woman, because everything you say, someone will either go out of their way to find a way that you are wrong, or if they can't do that, they will go out of their way to say the most hurtful thing to you that they can manage. Because they can. Because the internet exists. And because these men don't view women as people when they can hide behind the internet. And even in person, men just write off female sports fans, assuming their boyfriends are fans, or that they only watch because they think the players are attractive.
Think of how often you've seen young women mocked during game broadcasts. How many gifs of bored female fans get passed around and laughed at online? You don't know what's happening - it could be a blowout and they're good fans, sticking it out, hoping for the best and being disappointed by their team. Or not. But they paid to be there, so what does it matter to you?
I have been lucky to be around McC where the guys are cool and only get in your business if you're spewing hot takes that don't make sense. (Or if you have opinions on food. Food opinions know no labels) But being a female sports fan on the rest of the internet, it really, really sucks. Make sure you aren't adding to it.
I think she brings up a great point. People should not be judged solely on their gender. The fact that she cannot enjoy things she love because of all the unfair judgments that comes along with her gender is outrageous. I wish people, especially my male sports fans, has a chance to read this and never ever judge a woman for loving a male-dominated sport.
@shannonl5 Well your mom is awesome! And I bet she knows more about sports than all the men that trash talk to women who love sports!
Hear hear! The only reason I cared about sports was because of my mom. She's super passionate about her teams and watches every game she doesn't go to. She's the one that had season tickets and brought me with her. Without all that I probably wouldn't care at all