Gwen Stefani's relationships have always been rocky.
For better or for worse, they provided Stefani with the material to write some of her best songs.
First dating a fellow band mate, Tony, and then marrying Gavin Rossdale.
Through Stefani's work, we can watch the whole thing unfold:
This song was about Tony Kanal, Stefani's boyfriend and No Doubt's bassist. They had an incredibly rocky relationship which probably wasn't helped by the amount of songs she wrote talking about how much it sucked. This song was inspired by one of their last fights.
"Sappy pathetic little me
That was the girl I used to be
I know who I am, but who are you?
You're not looking like you used to "
Five years into her relationship with Gavin Rossdale, Stefani was having trouble dealing with his dating style, his long list of lovers, and his flirty personality. He may or may not have cheated on her at this point, but she "can't help" staying with him.
"But I still love to wash in your old bathwater
Love to think that you couldn't love another
I can't help it...you're my kind of man"
One year before Stefani and Rossdale got married, No Doubt released one of their best albums, Rock Steady. On it, Stefani wrote one of her happiest songs about her soon-to-be husband. This was a hopeful time for the couple.
I'm the one you chose
Out of all the people
You wanted me the most
I'm so sorry that I've fallen
Help me up lets keep on running
Don't let me fall out of love"
Aaaaaand then it all turns to shit.
Stefani found out that Rossdale is a nasty cheater and wrote one of my favorite songs calling him out.
"I feel you must have failed me
once again you've let me down
Peek in, sneak about
I'm gonna snoop and call you out
I've caught you, you're hands are red
Now I'm your broken hearted detective"
But in the mean time, her relationship with Tony improved and she was able to write a song for her solo album about how they are on great terms - they want each other to be happy, they can be friends again, and they're finally at peace.
"It's hard to remember how it felt before
Now I found the love of my life...
Passes things get more comfortable
Everything is going right
And after all the obstacles
It's good to see you now with someone else
And it's such a miracle that you and me are still good friends
After all that we've been through
I know we're cool"
Used To Love You
After 3 children, getting back together, breaking up, getting back together again, etc, Stefani and Rossdale finally called it quits, divorcing in 2015. Gwen comes to terms with it with one of her latest releases, Used to Love You.
"Never thought this would happen
Gonna let it sink in, you're gone
I don't know, know what I'm feeling
I must be dreaming, you're gone
Pulling back out the driveway
You go, I'll stay
You can keep all the memories
I thought I was the best thing that ever happened to you
I thought you loved me the most"
Make Me Like You
Now, Stefani is dating (is engaged to????) Blake Shelton and is over-the-moon happy. Her newest track is all about falling in love unexpectedly. She's happy, poppy, and ready to conquer the world all over again.
"Why'd you have to go and make me like you?
Yeah this is a feeling I'm not used to
Why'd you have to go and make me like you?
I'm so mad at you cause now you got me missing you
Cause now you got me missing you"