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Creative minds run a mile a minute.

Emotions are faster, more intense, and controlling. You don't express your feelings in traditional ways and you're often depressed by the need to make something meaningful but not being satisfied with your work.

So how do these intensely creative minds fall in love with each other and make it work?

Kurt Cobain and Courtney Love

As two leaders of the grunge and 90s rock scene, this couple was always in the midst of chaos. Courtney was trying to prove that rock wasn't meant to be masculine, and Kurt was struggling to believe he was 'masculine enough' as he felt himself to be quite feminine.
They learned, failed, and grew together. Both struggling with drug addictions, depression, and growing fame, their relationship never was given space to just grow naturally and simply be.
They were still together at the time of Kurt Cobain's death, but many claim that Courtney didn't help him as much as he needed during his struggle with drug addiction. In his suicide note he is thankful for his "goddess of a wife who sweats ambition and empathy."

Jay-Z and Beyonce

If you've been paying attention to the news at all lately you've probably heard about Beyonce's Lemonade - an open letter about Jay-Z's infidelity. So how do two of the biggest egos in the entertainment industry survive in a relationship for so long?
How does Jay-Z feel about a very, very personal story being turned into a massive piece of art that will probably be heard and seen by half of the world? As a fellow artist does he accept that as his wife's need to express herself artistically?

Johnny Depp and Winona Ryder

When I think of dark brooding figures, I often think of Johnny Depp. A mysterious man who clearly keeps much of his emotions hidden away, he found his true love in Winona Ryder, and equally odd character. How was it that these too people who were so deep and dark and at times twisted - how could they communicate with each other clearly? How did they deal with their immense changes of moods and moments when they close in on themselves?
Later, of course, the relationship ended and Johnny had his 'Winona' tattoo edited, but I always find this couple so intense and interesting.
It's always a little weird, you're like ‘We used to do this and that, we used to have fun and hang out together.’ But at least we were able to feel that for each other. I feel real lucky that we got that." – Johnny.
I guess the point of this card is just to ask, how do creative people, who feel this burning desire to communicate in interesting ways, successfully have relationships with other equally creative people?
I can see that being in a relationship with someone less creatively inclined could be difficult because they don't understand the call of art. I am just always intrigued by couples that can be so intensely in their own worlds and still find room for another person who does the same.

For our more creative Vinglers: how do you deal with creative vs not quite as creative minds as lovers or friends?

Creative people need a non-creative person to tell them how awesome their creations are. Two creative people can't give each other the support they need; they're both busy being creative. Two non-creative people would only produce math teachers, so that's out of the question, too.
i just love people i dont let me get in the way hopefully
me..I'm a writer at heart.. a few words or shapes can send my mind off in a billion directions.. my wife's an artist who I swear is Picasso's daughter...we have two different outlets..I have my words while she has her our relationship thrives because we use to compete but to complete
My grandparents on my father's side were all artists. My grandmother's first husband and love was a musician, and she was a singer, poet, and writer. When they weren't working, they took their children traveling across the country, just setting up and creating music for anyone who'd listen. My aunts always talk fondly of those memories and of the love of their parents. After my biological grandfather passed away, she met her second husband. He was a writer and publisher. They had a very similar relationship...though they traveled more to Trekkie conventions and medieval fairs. They encouraged each other in their passions, my aunt's say they never let their egos stand between them. My biofather works in computers, but my aunt's are artists. My mother's parents are both non-creative people. My grandfather works in communications and my grandmother was a nurse. They have one of those relationships full of sarcasm and functional love. You know, the kind that works amazingly well, but people on the outside just can't figure out how it does. Aside from my mother, their children are all scientists.
I've only been with creative people, and yes the relationships were difficult but I believe that we gravitate toward people who challenge and drive us. I think all relationships can work.
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