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I know what you're thinking, WHATTTT?! How the fuck can you say that...but let me explain. My friend just sent me a screen shot of a post made by socialnetworkhell, which points out that there should be no such thing as consensual sex because anything that ISNT is rape.
Does anyone else see the problem with having to differentiate between what's consensual and what wasn't? In fact, does anyone not see the issue that we try to soften the blow of RAPE with a bullshit phrase of "non consensual" because "accusing someone of rape" makes us so uncomfortable? Rape should not be an uncomfortable issue. It's a crime that needs to be shouted from the rooftops. In the words of socialnetworkhell; "you wouldn't say "breathing swimming" and "not breathing swimming", you would say "swimming" or "drowning"." Because there is no such thing as consensual sex. It's Sex, or its Rape.
And people, especially victims of rape, shouldn't be made to feel like this fictional grey area exists because it makes talking about rape more difficult. If someone steals from you, you want to be able to talk about it, to report it with confidence, so something can be done about it. If there was a mindset that said theft was non-consensual borrowing, how would that affect the chances that you would report the crime? That puts you defending your claim that someone stole from you, before you even report the do you prove that you didn't lend your belongings to your friend, that they "borrowed" them without your permission? It makes the line between giving someone something of yours and them taking it without permission a bit more indistinguishable.
ew .-. talk about greasy lines of work. "I schedule the city's citizen sex system"
Exactly! Good point there with the pillow talk, I didn't think of that. I just fear one day we're going to lose all sanity and go mad with regulations. XD scheduled sex for every citizen.
@michaelgr95 when some one consents and continues to consent even if they are nervous that is consent. When two people are drunk and both are consenting and then wake up the next day and ones like oh shit why did I do that it's still consent. You are allow to regret who you ha e sex with (ie ex boyfriend, best friend, total toolbag who you actually hate) but regret in sex does not mean that person will feel like they were raped. Rape is when someone does not consent ever, or in the middle says stop or pulls away or just clearly isn't into it and when the person checks in they say they aren't. Also the idea of a contact is always throw around. Meanwhile asking for consent can't be hot IE do you like when I do that, does this turn you are, how much do you want it!!
Arguing semantics, trying to make consent seem complicated, is exactly the attitude that creates this illusion that rape is not clearly defined. It is clearly defined. **When someone lacks the capacity to consent or when someone has revoked or refused to consent, and a person continues to try to have sex with that someone, it is rape. Lacks the capacity (examples: is unconscious, is drunk, is coerced, is mentally handicapped, is a child, and so on) Revokes or refused to consent (examples: changes mind before or in the midst of sexual encounter, pulls away, pushes other person away, says NO, makes any indication that they don't want or no longer want to engage in sex, and so on) If the state of Consent is in question...DON'T PROCEED. Simple. Making this seem complicated encourages aggressors and also discourages victims of rape from reporting rape, because society makes them unsure whether they were actually raped.
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