racheltucker
a year ago100+ Views
Common Misunderstandings of Anxiety/Depression
A lot of people don't understand mental health disorders. Some of the most common ones are anxiety, depression, bipolar, ADD, ADHD, etc. However, there are many more that I don't even know about. I have had anxiety since i was born, and depression for about 5 years now. I am 16 years old and have now started receiving treatment, so i am hopefully on the road to recovery. I know what it's like to be misunderstood by even my own family. Anyways, for those of you who have any kind of mental health disorder, I am here for you. If you need advice or just wanna talk then just know you can message me any time.馃挄 Anyways, here are some of the most common misunderstandings of anxiety/depression. 鉂わ笍鉂わ笍鉂わ笍鉂わ笍鉂わ笍鉂わ笍鉂わ笍鉂わ笍鉂わ笍鉂わ笍鉂わ笍鉂わ笍鉂わ笍鉂わ笍鉂わ笍鉂わ笍 1.馃尭It is all in our heads and we can control it if we want to.馃尭 Most people don't understand depression because they cannot physically see our illness. I am not a professional, so i do not know what the cause of depression/anxiety is. Some say it's a chemical imbalance in the brain, but others say that has been disproven. All i know from my experience, is that we cannot control it by ourselves. We do not choose to be sad all the time. I have tried to be happy but sometimes i can't. Sure, we can fake a smile for other people, but deep down we are only getting worse. 2.馃尭We cannot just 'snap out of it.'馃尭 A lot of people think people with depression can just choose to be happy. However, we sometimes can't. I would choose happiness if i could. I've tried to snap out of it before. However, what most people don't realize is that telling us we need to magically be more happy only results in us faking a smile. Inwardly, this can make depression worse. Please get help. Trust me, it gets better if you get help. 3.馃尭People with depression are just negative people and we should avoid them.馃尭 Yes, I understand that negativity brings others down, but people with depression cannot control it. Usually, if i'm having a rough day, i literally cannot think of anything positive to say, so I just keep my mouth shut. If you have a friend who is negative all the time, rather than avoiding them, try to help them. Be as positive of an influence as you can. Whenever they say something negative try to turn it into something positive. For example, it they say something like, "i hate school," then respond with trying to bring out the positive such as, "well you do get to hang out with friends," or "but don't you enjoy your elective class?" Or just try to change the subject. Try talking about hobbies/interests and just try to be as positive of an influence as possible. If you avoid them they will only become even more depressed, this will not help them. If you watched "Winnie The Pooh" when you were younger then you were taught a very important lesson. Eyore is always sad and depressed, but is still included in adventures and loved by all his friends. This is how we need to treat others with depression. And if you have depression, true friends will love you for you. If they abandon you for being down all the time, then remember, they aren't true friends. True friends will try to help you, not leave you. I am lucky enough to have a few true friends who i can be myself around. They can always bring a smile to my face. If you don't have friends like this, then i will be your friend. 4.馃尭People who get bad grades/don't do homework/miss a lot of school are just lazy馃尭 I used to believe this before depression hit me hard. People with depression are not lazy. A lot of teachers and parents don't understand it. They think it's lack of effort. What they don't understand is that for some people, the simplest tasks are difficult. I understand what it's like to want good grades, but not have the motivation because you feel down all the time. Some days, it takes so much effort just to get out of bed in the morning and face the world. Also, people with anxiety can feel physically sick. For me, sometimes I can't tell if i'm sick because of anxiety or if I actually have the flu. It's feeling sick because of a bad grade on a test. People with anxiety overthink things. Most people view a bad grade as a bad grade. People with anxiety read more into it such as, i'm a failure at life, i'm stupid, my parents will hate me, people will think i'm lazy, i'm never going to get into college, anyone who sees my grade will know how stupid i am, my friends will avoid me if they realize how dumb i am, i'm a failure at life, etc. It's not just as simple as trying harder for better grades for some people. Some people want good grades, and want motivation, but literally have none. It's feeling tired constantly. So tired that all you ever want to do is sleep. Please stop misinterpreting this as laziness. They might also need to learn at a different pace. My entire life school has been difficult for me. Even before depression, i spent way more hours on homework than anyone else. I was always the last person to finish tests. I would stay up till 12 to not even finish all of my homework. In classes such as math, I had to give 100% effort just to get a C. And other years even when i tried my best, I still got an F. My entire life i have been punished for bad grades. My parents would tell me i need to try harder. The only year i ever got straight A's was my fourth grade year because i had an amazing teacher who put in so much of her time to help me. However, i spent almost all of my recesses in the classroom getting help and spent my afternoons doing homework. Then in fifth grade, i gave up because my teacher would not help me. If I didn't understand the lesson she just told me i should have payed attention and she wasn't gong to repeat it. I got majorly behind in school, and people just assumed i wasn't trying. I'm 16 now and found out that i qualify for a class to get help for special ed because i process things at a way slower rate than the average person. My point is that the students you know who are lazy and don't do their work, maybe there is more going on than you can see. Maybe they did try at one point, but got tired of spending all their free time doing homework just to fail. 5.馃尭People who cry/have panic attacks in public about little things are just weak/psycho people.馃尭 I hear gossip all the time about the people who cry all the time for small reasons. I have cried in public multiple times before about the smallest things and i wish i could hold back the tears. There is more to it than just 1 thing we are crying about. That 1 thing leads to a million negative thoughts about ourselves. I have come so close to having a panic attack at school multiple times. It is not easy to pull yourself out of a panic attack. It is one of the hardest things in the world. Panic attacks are not enjoyable and we do not choose to have panic attacks, we can't control it. 鉂わ笍鉂わ笍鉂わ笍鉂わ笍鉂わ笍鉂わ笍鉂わ笍鉂わ笍鉂わ笍鉂わ笍鉂わ笍鉂わ笍鉂わ笍鉂わ笍鉂わ笍鉂わ笍 I hope I helped people understand mental health a little bit more. Obviously, if you don't have anxiety/depression, you cannot fully understand what it's like, just don't judge us for something we can't control. And if you have a mental health disorder, please get professional help. I know it kind of sucks, but life does get better when you start getting help. To sum everything up i want to say don't judge what you don't understand. Thank you for taking the time to read this have a great day.馃挄
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This article speaks in volume. When I was in Highschool, I was struggling to make good grades. I couldn't be around many people without having a panic attack. I got accepted in a much smaller school (60 students max a year), I made straight A's and B's. Noone understands this struggle, unless they are fighting a similar battle.
a year agoReply
Best of luck to you. I'm 51 and have struggled all my life with depression. I tried to self medicate, and that has only amplified my issues. DON'T MAKE THAT MISTAKE! Tony Robbins has some good things to say on this subject. Look him up on YouTube. And Eckhardt Tolle. Both have had depression... and worked out of it!
a year agoReply
trust me i get it. i have a Personality Disorder. this is on top of Eating Disorders since age 9(no big trauma) self harm, trichotillomania/compulsion to pull my eyelashes+hair out Dep/Anx - anx is mainly ANX thing with other ppl/being social! The D has inc suicide attempts. seriously its endless. iv just been fired(due to *This sh*t* a job i had since i was 16
a year agoReply
@snoogans13 i'm so sorry i feel for you i know it really sucks being blamed for something that's out of your control i wish more people understood mental health disorders
a year agoReply
thanks. yep that was the attitude! i was there 15yrs. i have given them psych and dr reports all along. my boss said "it doesnt matter what is wrong with me, its No excuse for time off"
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