a year ago
TerrecaRiley
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DON'T KILL ME, I DON'T WANT ANY!
Each time I think about having children, I shudder. There was a time when that was the talk and I knew how many children I wanted. As time went by I realised that I was just meeting expectations as my greatest desire back then was to be respected by others. I thought having children would give me that privileged. But then I had a serious, deep conversation with myself and came to the conclusion that I honestly don't want children.
I've never had a desire for children but I allowed myself to be convinced that I want them. Now that I've taken a good look at myself and my desires, I have come to the conclusion that they are not necessary for survival. Time and again, my husband, my family members and those I come in contact with try to influence my decision, but their reasons do not appeal to me. ice tried to find a desire but all I see is negatives.
My husband is the one I'm most concerned for. What is he going to do? He NEEDS his children! We have been talking about this since before we got married and we both thought we were in agreement with each other, but recently we realised that none of us has changed our minds and now we're in a bit of conflict. For me, life is hard as it is at the moment and having babies doesn't make it easier. They're expensive and added stress that I don't think I need. I know he would be a great father (one of my reasons for marrying him) but now... the older I get, the more I banish the thought. I think in order for it to work, we both need to have the desire. WHAT TO DO?? (Pictures: Liberty Antonia Sadler for Metro)
5 comments
Adoption is an option, or you could go through with having kids. I've heard that even though children can be needy and stressful they cause a lot of joy. :/
a year ago·Reply
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some people don't have that 'parents' feeling yet until you reach your golden age. unless you can't have it for health reasons.
a year ago·Reply
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um unless YOU really want a child NO. there are millions in care bcoz ppl just have a kid without real thought and longing. u wouldnt need to ^grow to love them^ if u had WANTED THEM(post natal dep feelings are totally diff)
a year ago·Reply
my son who is 30 years old has told me many times that I should not plan on being a grandmother because of him. he was saying he don't want any children because this world is to violent to raise children safely these day. he also has told me he will leave it up to his two younger sisters. well the 26 year right now has medical reasons and the youngest is only 20 years and is adopting relatives of ours for reasons I can not say. she also plans to have 2 of her own and adopt twin older siblings but this is after she is married and out of school. the two relatives will be on their own by that time.
a year ago·Reply
@H7zAngel ok... thank you for sharing. I like knowing that I'm not the only one in the world who thinks about it this way
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