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Women Are Clingy, Men Are Romantic

Why is it that when a man performs a wild, extravagant, borderline-stalker gesture, and he's SO ROMANTIC.
A woman attempts to sweep a man off of his feet, and we're called crazy. Or clingy. Or obsessive.

Why is it more socially acceptable for a man to overly express his emotional side but women need to play it cool when it comes to romance?

Writes you letters everyday.

Think of the Notebook. We're told to think that's super romantic of the guy, but if a girl did it she'd be seen as obsessed!!

Throws rocks at your window.

I used to fantasize about that when I was younger, hoping my crush would ride his bike over and say he loves me from the street below. But think about a girl doing that...she's probably stalking you.

Shows up outside your classroom door to walk you to your next class.

A guy standing outside your office or classroom door is sweet, touching, cute, but a girl might be a little obsessed with you, right?

Trying to change your mind about dating them.

Girls chasing after their crush telling them 'I'll treat your right!,' ' Just give me one shot,' or anything Heath Ledger said in 10 Things I Hate About You just sounds goofy to think about!

Do anything annoyingly musical.

Put on a performance in front of the whole school, hold up a boom box outside of your window, whatever it is, guys can do it and girls should sort of...not...

Use pick up lines.

Guys may get a huge eye roll for using them, but have you ever heard a girl throw out a pick up line at someone at the bar? Probably not.

Ladies: Do you ever feel like you can't make any big romantic gestures? What's a romantic thing you've done?

Ladies and Gentlemen: Would you be turned on or off by a girl doing a bigger romantic gesture that's usually just considered a guy thing?

Personally, I'm all for everyone showing love in as many ways as they can! I'm not super into big romantic things for me personally, but I say guys and gals should be able to do whatever they want!
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in fact when someone is romantic towards me I always mess it up with something stupid lol like not taking them serious etc
Perhaps it has something to do with the stereotype that men are supposed to take the lead. After all, it is typically true. Personally, I wouldn't mind having a woman who was a little more in charge, but I think that it's considered weird nonetheless. People set standards more than they should.
ummm I don't think I've met a guy that makes me want to be romantic yet. also I don't plan on being romantic until he's wrapped around my finger. less stress for me. I'm playing it safe and not tossing my heart to some guy like it's a football.....not every guy can catch.
I don't think its crazy. Us guys have so much on our minds with work and what not that we don't have maximum brainpower at work when analyzing female behavior. Some guys, including myself, need a girl to be blatant so that I can give her what she wants and if a girl tried to sweep me off of my feet = immediate turn on. :)
I think it depends on how you approach it. we guys actually want the girl to be assertive. being subtle just makes us oblivious...you know I inadvertently broke my wife's heart 3 times because she was being subtle. I for one wouldn't. want someone writing letters or doing any of the aforementioned stuff above, guy or girl. my advice? play it cool because this "clinginess" goes both ways.
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