Phase 1: The blessing of being introduced to kpop from a peer or any source of media. You end up loving the music, the groups or solo artist as a person ( not an idol ), the music videos, and the V lives or youtube videos.
Phase 2: You start to develop a bias list and in counter my bias wreckers who try to destroy your life and your list. You debate wither it human to fall so much for someone you know is far away and can't have no matter what.
Phase 3: You start to debate on leaving the kpop community and your bias or bias group. The physical and mental attachments that grown in the time knowing your bias or bias group cause you to never leave. That's why they say " Once you join the kpop community, there is no turning back."
Examples of why leaving kpop is hard.