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Why Did The Era of Love Letters End?

When Shani Silver pulled a box of letter off a shelf in her grandmother's home, her grandmother immediately smiled and jokingly said, “You can have them when I’m dead.”

When her grandmother did pass, Shani poured over the letters which revealed the pre-marriage courtship of her grandmother and grandfather.

"They really wrote to each other every day. You can see it in the postmarks. Sometimes they wrote to each other twice a day. The letters weren’t anything scandalous, in fact, having read them I’m really surprised Grama wouldn’t let me read them back then. They talked mostly about nothing."

There was no FaceTime, long-distance phone calls were expensive. Instagram didn’t provide a window into their lives, they literally never saw what the other one was eating for dinner.

Knowing how excited we can feel when getting come text messages, imagine how one would feel getting a love letter. Of course we can guess, because then her grandmother saved it for 50 years.
Sometimes we make fun of the text-based relationships we have now. A full argument accomplished via text will be criticized as one that should have taken place in person. As if we shouldn’t be connecting ourselves to other people through words. The letters make me think just the opposite. A relationship can be strengthened by words. You can accomplish things together without being in the same room. Plans can be made, love expressed. But I guess it really comes down to your idea of romance.
If my grandparents were writing each other letters every day during their courtship, that means that at some point every day, they were thinking about each other. That they were physically doing something designed solely to please the other person, to make the other person happy during mail call.
I think romance is determined by its weight in thought and effort and text messages weigh nothing at all. All we have to do is remember to charge our phones.

“I will hug and kiss you all to pieces my dear when we’re together. All to pieces.” — a letter written to Doris Silver, by Harry Kahn, on June 30, 1949.

Seven months before they were married and 33 years to the day before the birth of their granddaughter, Shani.
Read Shani's whole story HERE!

Does anyone here still love sending and receiving letters?

16 comments
i write love letters to my fiancé whom i live with. i sometimes put in with the mail or leave it around the house. if i go to bed before he comes home from work i will tape one to the door saying welcome home hun i love you! sometimes i put on the door just to see him smile when he comes in. love letters dont have to come from strangers. they mean more coming from people already in your life.
a year ago·Reply
When my boyfriend and I were long-distance, we'd write letters to each other that we wouldn't find until we'd have dropped each other off at the airport or he'd ask my brothers or best friends to save the letters until a birthday or something. Even though we didn't actually send mail to each other in the post, I liked that we wrote hand-written letters to each other. 😌
a year ago·Reply
I'd love to get a letter; there's something so personal about paper.
a year ago·Reply
I wish i got a letter... 😞
a year ago·Reply
Even some from my great grandfather & gma. He was in the war and they wrote everyday to one another. I love love letters, and that would be a sure way to make me swoon.
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