sophiamor
a year ago1,000+ Views
How to Reject Someone

I've never been good at saying no to a date, and boys have never been good at taking my hints.

The only guy that ever took my "ermmm...I'm busy" as the "no" that is was, was a super sweet guy who asked me out during my library shift, returned the next day with M&Ms and said 'just thought I'd check." It would have never worked out but I TOTALLY appreciated how cool he was about it all.
But for those less in tune...

Here are some ways of getting out of rejecting someone out-right but it seems more awkward than just telling someone straight!

If you meet for a date, don’t order anything.

Okay, this seems super awkward. Let's say they ask you out for an ice cream and you don't order one, its clear that you aren't into this date and your date will probably be uncomfortable and pissed. They'll get the hint.

Don’t let him walk you home.

“I’ll walk you home” usually ends in disaster for people who want the date to end. The person offering to walk you is probably expecting a kiss OR an invitation to a second date. Just say "I'm walking myself home, thanks" and part ways.

Be on your phone while in conversation.

CRINGE! SO RUDE! But, if you want someone to know you aren't interested in the, that's a pretty obvious way. It's mean and sad and personally I think the person on a date with you deserves to just be told you aren't interested, but hey, whatever floats your boat.

Fizzle out the texting

This is probably the easiest. If you leave a date with promises to text them tomorrow, don't. Just let the conversations start to die to make your point clear.
Once I had a guy who wouldn't leave me alone so I finally agreed to go to lunch with him, where I proceeded to talk about my "boyfriend" (who didn't exist) to make it seem like this was just a friend lunch.
He got the hint after that.

Do you have a crafty way of rejecting someone without really telling them flat-out no? Or do you believe honesty is the best policy?

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Just say no. When you say Errrmm we men get confused :) We prefer direct messages rather than indirect.
a year ago·Reply
Lol all this talk about "real" men and the like. I always find it... interesting. By definition, all you need to be a "man" or "woman". It's literally defined as "an adult human male (or female)". And adult is defined as "a person who is fully grown or developed". Even if you want to say "mature", that just refers to "fully developed PHYSICALLY". So people defining a "real" man or woman is just something that a specific person believes an adult should be, which will change person to person. Sure, there are widely accepted and agreed upon things, but just because a person doesn't fit your type, doesn't mean they aren't a "real" and "true" man. Now, this does get to be a touchy subject. There used to be respect and those rules of respect were upheld by nearly everybody. Now? Not so much. Now? You can't say anything without offending someone. Now? You get in trouble if you so much as threaten another person for endangering somebody who is violent or nearly violent to person you care about. Now? There's no comradery amongst strangers anymore. People used to work together to help in situations. Now, it seems like everybody has to be against everybody else. Most of us are too isolated in our own little worlds. I can't tell you how many times I've gotten into or almost gotten into fights because a guy was being a little too aggressive to a girl and nobody else said or did anything. They just sat there and watched. I can't tell you how many times I've had to threaten somebody because somebody close to me was being made to feel uncomfortable due to another person not accepting "no". But this is simply because Western culture and Western culture's influence has made it so. Western society/culture has turned into something so soft and way too forgiving. I DO agree with certain parts of what is being said, but personally, I believe faulting the parents is irresponsible and wrong. There is a certain point in your life where you start to think for yourself. Especially when you get away from your parents and become independant. It is at that point where your parents are no longer at fault for you. Does upbringing influence you? Of course. But you're now your own person who consciously makes your own decisions on how to think and act away from or in accordance to your parents. That's how I see it, anyways. I like to think people are responsible for themselves and should be held accountable and treated accordingly. That's all I'll say about that. Now, honesty. Depending on how they act, it'll be harsh truth or it'll be a softer truth. "I don't like you. I don't want you in my life (anymore)." or "I'm sorry. I don't think this will work out." and If they continue to pursue it, I gladly start listing reasons why we won't work. You're useless. You don't know how to cook. You don't clean. You barely have a job. You dress quite slovenly. You're immature. You have no ambitions. Your priorities are quite different than mine; You'd rather party and play games instead of work, save money, and better yourself. You never shut up. You live in a fantasyland of "what should be" instead of "what is". Staying around you is making me regress instead of advance. Grow up. Lol =p They get the message.
a year ago·Reply
I always roll with honesty.
a year ago·Reply
Honesty is really the best thing.
a year ago·Reply
I usually tell them the truth in the nicest most polite tone of voice that I can manage.
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