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Warning: over-thinking girlfriend alert.

TLDR (in advance) My boyfriend is stressed, I want to help him out but I worry I'm annoying him. WHAT TO DO?!
My boyfriend is currently SUPER over-worked (he leaves home at 9am and gets home around 1am...) because his company is completely revamping its app and he's a developer >.<
Sometimes when I'm stressed I want people to say they feel bad for me and ask how to help and just generally be super helpful and caring.

Other times, I want people to stop talking about how stressed or overworked I am and just let me forget about it.

I'm the kind of person that wants to take care of him and offer as much help as I can, but I worry that sometimes I'm annoying, remembering that I often don't like people acting like that towards ME.
But of course when I ask him to tell me if I'm bothering him he always says "you're never annoying" SO HOW DO I KNOW IF IM ANNOYING?!
My current solution has been to still ask how he is and offer help, but keep it on the DL and try to read his reactions to my messages :/

Does anyone have advice for how to help stressed friends or significant others?

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@sophiamor Glad I could help a Nakama! :-)
tell them "Life is too big to worry about the worries life send you".Things happen and they will not be forever. Live,Love and Enjoy Life
I highly suggest being as tolerable and calm as you can be. Men aren't always vocal with their emotions so sometimes "babying" them is a great route. Just a shoulder rub and some advice like "It's hard now, we will get through it and I'm here for you." I have an over thinking, over reactive boyfriend myself and this has helped us both massively when it comes to effective communication.
I am going to tell u what my mom always tells me... communication is the best key, and those words have guided my marriage to today
if u guys are sexually involved, sex helps... and lots of it! if not just being there with and for him also helps. Or both. Sometimes they just need to see and hear their partners