daljiyong
a year ago1,000+ Views
You need to STOP body shaming.
Today I was eating some pizza with friends from my youth group (at church) and this woman said some things that bothered me the rest of the day.

"Are you using that dipping sauce, knowing how many calories it is?"

What I want to eat and how I choose to enjoy it is my business, thank you very much. To tell a growing, teenage girl that she's too big when she's clearly going through an internal battle is probably one of the shittiest things you can do. The disgusting words that came out of her dirty mouth. The way she spit at me and embarassed me in front of so many people. It made me feel like a pig. A filthy, squealing, fat pig. Keep in mind I'm not very big, I'm 5' 3" and weigh 113 pounds (as of last week) but growing up as a second generation Korean, losing weight seemed like the only thing I should be doing.
In the kind of household I'm growing up in, my parents tend to make careless comments on how big my thighs are or the extra pudge that seems to be clinging onto my waist.

"Don't eat too much, but you need to finish all the food on your plate,"

ENOUGH with all of the crazy mixed messages you're sending me. I want to love my body as it is, but having people constantly tell me that it's far from beautiful makes it so hard for me. What do I have to do for you to shut up? Do I need to starve myself until my knees clack together? Oh no.. "That's too skinny" they'll say. Well then, I guess I'll have to gain some weight to look more like a human? But wait... "Now you look fat again"

"Those jeans look like they'll explode on you"

Our job is to share happiness so that others will grow to empower those who need help. Don't berate someone for the way that they look or the lifestyle they choose to live. We are all entitled to our own choices and principles - but it's not alright to go bashing others because their body is not perfect in your eyes. Last time I checked, the whole human race was not created just so you could be pleased with their appearances. Get over yourself.

So, to the lady (who I am hardly more than acquaintances with) that called me fat...

No, I would not like to take home a box of pizza and sauce because I "seemed to enjoy stuffing myself earlier". No, I do not care about how many calories are in the dipping sauce I am using because I know that calories are not everything (also, it tastes good. so fuck it) I absolutely hope you don't send those degrading messages to your daughters at home. Trying to knock down someone's pride is something only an insecure person would do. Put some respect on it. And I also hope that you know that I am eating pizza while writing this (and it tastes like heaven). Many good vibes and love, Daljiyong ♡♡♡.
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Agreed! @pharmgirlerin (on all your points!)
a year ago·Reply
@efacew Some people just need to bring people down to where they are to feel a little bit confident, as sad as that is. I hope that you have overcome what you've gone through in the past to become confident! I'll try my best to love myself as well ♡
a year ago·Reply
@pharmgirlerin You are very fortunate you had amazing parents who lifted up your spirits! It is very true that the ones in authority to do good are most often the ones who abuse their power to bring people down. I'm so sorry you had to experience this as well. As a Christian, it hurts me to think that these people may be saying hurtful things to others. It makes the image of God tainted... Props to you for working hard to love who you are and see the beauty in yourself! I agree with everything you said. Beauty begins within one and will work to spread throughout others. Love is contagious. If we put in the effort to give others confidence and happiness, the world will truly become a better place ♡
a year ago·Reply
@daljiyong so so sadly true friend. I'm not where I want to be, but definitely not where I was. Some days I feel very much my (pre)teen insecure self (years later), BUT every day is a new. I can gladly say I can remind myself that He is greater than me. & with that I can forge ahead. Like @pharmgirlerin I had a loving, uplifting & supportive family structure. On the flip side though, that little sneaky voice that feeds you bs... you do your best not to believe always tries to twist truth into fiction. Daily, I do my best to say kind things to myself rather than the opposite, it helps. Hugs to you!
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