If your daughter or son comes out that they've been molested by your spouse, do not respond with the "I believe you, but I have to support my husband until there's proof." You're telling your child that they don't matter, that saving face is more important to you than even their own safety and sanity. You're telling your child that they have absolutely no one in this world that they can rely on to stand by them in the darkness. You're telling your child that he was right all along...no one would care. You're creating the deepest, most significant scar your child will carry, one that is very likely impossible to heal. Be careful with your words. Be careful with your child's heart.