My husband and I were in different states when we got married. He was finishing up his degree in Arizona and I had been stationed at Nellis Air Force Base in Las Vegas for a couple of years.
We had a long distance dating relationship at that time and shortly after we married I was sent on a 1 year remote tour to Korea. This means he wasn't allowed to come with me.
After I returned from Korea, we moved together to the DC area where I was stationed for three years. However, after only one year he moved to Virginia to start medical school. We were basically apart for another 2 years.
Though we were closer when he was in medical school, his schedule and my work load limited us to getting together about once ever 3 months for a weekend.
Since this was over 20 years ago, we did not have access to such things as Skype or good email service. Lonh distance calls yo Korea would break any budget as well. We dealt with letters and taped voice recordings.
Though it was not easy, we mastered this thing called communication and have been happily married since 1992 (longer than many people here have been alive). It is possible for a long distance relationship to be successful - very successful. Separation will, however, either make a relationship stronger or break it. Communication is the key.
Best of luck to you.
@TaraJenner wow I cant even imagine that! he was just able to call me the other day for ten minutes which was great, and he actually sat down and wrote me a letter im so shocked!!!
my parents met in the 80s and started a long distance for about 3 years (my mom's from new jersey, my dad's from california) and they always joked that the plane tickets and phone calls were getting too expensive so they had to get married ;) thats so awesome to hear your relationship survived all that distance and time!