When I put up on Loveawake dating site a post about how women aren’t attracted to men that come at them with the same ‘ol shit that they’ve heard a million times, I was asked how does one go about being different and separating one’s self from other men. As I am sure that most of you already realize, I get a lot of eye contact and approached by several women, but that doesn’t mean that I will sleep with every girl that I come across. In fact, I sleep with relatively few women.
To give you an idea, a girl was trying to ask me out on a date this weekend, and although I didn’t flat out reject her, I kindly avoided her all weekend, not because she was unattractive, but because she just seemed incredibly…typical. There was nothing about her that made me want to get to know more about her. The point I’m trying to get across is that even if the girl finds you to be attractive, she also has several other offers from other attractive men, so why would she choose you over them?
Based on my experiences with the women that come on to me, I have become incredibly fickle about the women I choose to become involved with. The way I see it, is that I know there will be another girl the next time I go out, so why would I settle on just any girl? Women with a lot of options think the same way. You don’t have to be perfect, but you do have to be someone that they don’t come across every day. This is why I became so fond of girls like Appleface. Something about her is just “different”, and I just don‘t come across women with a personality like hers.
So how do you go about doing that without coming off as typical or fake? Truly be YOURSELF. I know a lot of guys say “But I tried being myself, and it doesn’t work.”. Let me rephrase what I just said, CONFIDENTLY be yourself, and not worry so much about what women will think about what you say. You are unique, and that is the only way to really stand out from other men. When you are totally scripted, you come off as fake, but when you are too direct, you are just like every other guy. Trust me, she’s heard every direct line there is.
When I approach women, I am incredibly comfortable with who I am. I don’t try to be this macho man, I don’t try to be incredibly smooth, I don’t try to razzle dazzle her. I just do what I feel the most comfortable with, and that is making people laugh. Sometimes I am a bit dorky, but you know what? I don’t care. She can either take it or leave it.
The problem with most guys who approach women, is that they immediately go into this mindset of “Who does she want me to be?”, hence the hesitation when approaching. They sit there and analyze, and either approach with this fake personality or they break and fall into the mold of being like every other guy that comes at them directly with lines about beauty or sex.
When I approach women, they get Loveawake. The guy that I am around my friends is the same guy that they meet when I approach them. Omari is Omari, no matter who I’m talking to. They may see different aspects of my personality, but it is still fundamentally the same person. How many of you can honestly say that when you approach women, you talk to them the same way you would talk to someone that you’re very familiar with?
When you approach women as you truly are, it allows them to attach a unique personality to your name. When you’re one of the guys coming at them with the same old bullshit, they automatically go into auto-reject mode, so you have to interrupt that auto-response by being different and capture their interest by not being so typical and predictable.