ryantadman
4 years ago5,000+ Views
This article was shared in jest between two female friends of mine, and out of curiosity I read it was well. What I found was puzzling, and I would love to hear your thoughts. 'Deprived of Romantic Love' was written by a young woman who describes her life as a daily struggle to hide her unhappiness over being without a relationship. She worries about finding romance, being told conflicting ideas about stumbling upon love. On one hand she is told to actively pursue love while the other tells her to go about her life doing what makes her happy and the right person will find her. What I wonder is, whether you are looking for love or hoping it is looking for you, is it healthy to be this caught up in finding someone to be with? What does this say about our capabilities of being by ourselves? I worry that we are more and more associating being alone with being lonely, which is not always the case. I remember the pressing questions from my family starting in high school and finally ending on my wedding day, about when I would be settling down, finding the right girl, starting a family. Young adults are constantly pestered about this area of their life. What we need to do is start celebrating independence, and this piece does the opposite. I encourage you to read it and form your own opinion. http://thoughtcatalog.com/kovie-biakolo/2014/03/deprived-of-romantic-love/
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This is my first comment on V. The title caught my eye.I can relate in so many ways. The last serious relationship I had was a few years ago, I'm embarrassed to say exactly. I don't drink or go to bars so the traditional places to meet people are out. I'm checking out a few dating Web sites (never thought I would) to meet new people . PS. DON'T THINK IT WILL BE THE SAME THING AS IN PERSON.ILL TRY ANYTHING. LOL . LONLEYINBALTIMORE. KEITH
Love or not having love is complicated. 2 of the best helps for this for me have been 1. to get a new puppy and spend time playing with and training it. 2. spend time helping someone in need.
I CAN TOTALLY AGREE,BUT SOMETHING IT IS DEPRESING LIVING SINGLE "NOT BY CHOICE" BUT NECESSITY . 4 YEARS I LIVED AS A FUNCTIONING ADDICT, AND YEARS WENT BY WHEN I DIDNT WANT TO DRAG ANOTHER DONE WITH ME. BEFORE I KNEW IT, WHEN I STOPPED US ING I HAD FORGOTTON HOW TO HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH ANYONE. SO THAT WHAT I MEAN NOT BY CHOICE. IT CAN B HARD STARTING OVER AT 38 BUT IM GLAD IM CLEAN AND ALIVE . BEING SINGLE AND LONLEYINBALTIMORE WILL GET BETTER. R I G H T !
pixie dust : I agree 2 a certain extent. I've lived alone since I was 19. I had lots of relationships when I was younger then I got mixed up in the wrong stuff.... ya know. and I didn't want to drag anybody else in with me . I got my life back about 17 months ago and ever since have been experiencing new emotions, feelings, thoughts, just everything that I didn't deal with for years.So not having someone to talk to , besides my therapist really sucks! That is why I am reaching out on V. Hoping someone has a heart. I sound like a girl, oh well.Not a bad thing. REALLY, THANKS TO EVERYONE OUT THERE, I JUST NEED A FRIEND TO TALK TO . NO HIDDEN AGENDA. KEITH IN CANTON.
And a note for @keithchalmers, it's just my two cents but if you aren't interested in going to bars or clubs, places like that, then it would seem reasonable that the person you would want to be with probably wouldn't be there anyway.
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