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It has been argued by many that Ray Rice should not see the light of day (or in his case the lights of another NFL stadium) again. There, however, have been others who have said that they are crucifying a man just because he made 1 mistake. All the while, the person who probably had the most pertinent things to say about the matter, the victim (aka Ray Rice's wife, Janay Rice), remained silent. That silence has ended. In 2 recent interviews with NBC's Today and ESPN, Janay Rice publicly defends her husband from the public onslaught he has received. And you know what I say to this? Good for her! Now, I am not condoning domestic violence nor am I saying Ray Rice's actions are in any way acceptable. All I am saying is that people were so quick to first call Ray Rice a victim of racial discrimination. Why? Because a black man was being dragged through the mud even though there was lack of proof of his crime. Then the same reporters who vehemently defended this player turned on him the moment they saw the video that showed him knocking his wife out. All these people talked and talked about what should happen to Ray Rice, but the person that mattered the most didn't have a voice. I am not saying that Ray Rice should be pardoned. Nor am I saying that Janay Rice is absolutely right. What I am saying is that in so many high profile domestic violence cases what matters the most is not the facts or even the emotions of the victims. What matters the most is whatever can sell the most newspapers. Isn’t that wrong? In this article by the NYT, Mrs. Rice clearly states that what she wanted most was the ability to state her opinion to a media outlet that would let her speak frankly. This is why she was silent for so long, and relied on her public relations team to deal with media requests. So why is this such an important moment for domestic abuse cases? Because often in an obvious attempt to make the stories better, reporters focus not on facts or how to get to the root of the domestic abuse problem, rather focus on sensationalism of the story. So rather than get people talking about the real issues of domestic violence (which is what high profile cases should do => get people talking), people start talking about things like should Ray Rice play for another team this year… When we have opportunities, such as these, for us to solve an issue that affects so many women across the world, we fail to even care about why the abuse happened or how we can ever prevent it from happening. So, good for Janay Rice for choosing to really voice her opinions about her domestic abuse experience. I disagree with her stance (Ray Rice should be punished for his horrendous crime), but at least I respect the fact that she was able to tell HER story. Now, if only we started wondering more about what kind of psychological and emotional damage the ordeal inflicted upon her… or if only we started investigating the relationship of alcohol and domestic violence (I have a feeling there is a strong correlation), then we would have a real news story that would lead to real change.
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@TrueBruin she has defended him the whole time, but she actually has not spoken publicly basically since the incident started. She was essentially silent because she feared that people would be more interested in making the story sensational rather than listen to what she had to say... @orenshani7 it is interesting, though, that in this case the discrimination argument was used as a defense of someone who was abusive (that much was proven about Ray Rice)
Hasn't she been defending him this whole time?
@goyo, I did not follow this story, just heard that something like that is going on. I am still scratching my head about this all discrimination thing. It is amazing how little we understand about something so profound in our society.
@orenshani7 have you followed this case? What do you think of this? This reminded me of your question of discrimination because many supporters of Ray Rice have said that racial discrimination has played a part in his extreme punishment...