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Q: My ex and I decided not to talk to one another since our breakup. But their birthday is coming up and I want to give him a gift that I had been planning for a long time. Would it be okay to give him a gift anyways? He's not in my life anymore, but I don't want to pretend he never existed. I'm afraid that it would look like I'm desperate or want to get back together, which isn't the case at all. Is it okay or would I just look desperate? Should I make my intentions clear?
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I wouldn't give the gift. You're not pretending the relationship never happened but are moving on. Even if you make your intentions clear he still might interpret it the wrong way.
@DaniaChicago You're right monetary value probably shouldn't have a place in giving the gift but a card for example doesn't hold say, a much deeper meaning than face value as opposed to a gift which is usually more thought out. Do you know what I mean? @redridergirl I am neither. These are merely my thoughts.
This is a really good question. I would forget the gift. It's not about pretending the relationship never happened, but if you both agreed not to talk, then I would respect that. By introducing a gift at this stage, I think it would send a mixed message and bring a lot of confusion and unnecessary drama.
@redridergirl I told her to keep checking the card so I'm sure she'll see this :) Thanks for all your advice for her!!!
Sounds like a insightful and caring woman. Wish her the best!
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