LizArnone
5,000+ Views

How Can You Even Think About Not Wanting Children?

"How can you not want babies, their so cute?" "Carrying a child just make you get more in touch with your womanhood." "Becoming a mother is the most important thing you can do in this lifetime." "Don't worry, you'll change your mind when you get older." Well I was never worried until I started talking to you, so thanks for that.
When I was a kid playing house was my favorite thing; except I never, and I mean never, played the mom. Why would I want to? Moms have to watch the kids, do whatever they want to do and then yell at them if they are doing something wrong (having to much fun). Don't get me wrong, motherhood is an amazing thing. The fact that a human body can form inside a life is beautiful, and being a Mom is 100% the hardest profession in the world. The respect I have of pregnant women and mothers alike is indescribable. Plus babies are so cute right? Yeah, when you can return them once they start crying.
Having this attitude certainly gets me a lot of lash back. My mother is already demanding at least two babies, meanwhile I can't even fathom having one. It is becoming more apparent the older (and more fertile) I get, that people still believe that all woman should be baby crazy. Sure, give them their jobs, let them wear pants, enjoy their newfound sexual rebellions and freedoms, but if they try to stop there true destinies of becoming baby making machines we must shame them back into motherhood where they belong. No thank you! So here is some much needed support for all those woman out there who find that motherhood is not on their radar.
Not having a child means money in the pocket. Having a child cost bank. I recently went to a baby shower and almost collapsed on the floor when I saw how much diapers alone cost, and that's only a small part of what a baby needs. The registry went on for almost 10 pages! And if you think about it, they only get more expensive from there. Flash forward to college. Right now paying for our own loans is mind boggling, try throwing a few kids in the mix. The money you save by not having an little rug rats means you can spend it on other cool things... like anything but diapers.
Being a Mom means a lot more responsibility Motherhood is a full time profession. You will never get a day off, ever. If your kid isn't sick they need to be car pooled to all of their after-school activities. Then you have to be involved with school and help them with homework, research SAT prep courses and find the perfect schools. Even when they are older and out of the house a Mothers worry can never go away. I am 22 years old and my mom still worries about me going to a bar with my friends. I will be married and across the country and she will still be worrying that I am not doing the laundry enough. That is just how Moms are. And they rock for being caring and always ready to help you out of everything. But I have enough anxiety as it is. Throw in a baby and I would need to start popping pills to relax.
Going Anywhere Becomes A Process I love to travel. I want to see the world before I die. Not an unfair request I don't think. Having a child doesn't stop that per say, but it certainly changes it. Traveling with a kid is hard, it costs more money, and you will have to schedule each trip around them. And when they are with you that means you have to pay more attention to them then the actual place you are visiting.
Not having a kid will not stop you from having a family. Just because you don't have children doesn't mean you will end up as the crazy cat lady. You can still get married, still have holidays packed full of loved ones, and you'll go to enough birthdays and plays to make you feel like you have your own kids. Your best friends kids will call you Aunt just as much as your actual nieces and nephews will. There will always be invitations to dinners and requests to baby sit for the weekend while your friends take a much needed break. Not having your own kid will not stop you from being a parental figure. It is extremely important to remember this.
I am not here to tell you that being a mother is stupid or a life ruiner. Becoming a mother is life changing and one of the bravest things a women can do. You will experience everything in a new and amazing way! But just because I do not want to be one does not make me any less of a woman. So stop telling me that I will be missing out, stop telling me that I will change my mind, because maybe I will, who knows? But it shouldn't matter. Because shaming woman for not wanting to be a mother is just as bad as shaming women because they are gay. Not fitting into a confines of the typical female social structure is fine. The quicker people realize this the happier (and more equal) women will become.
9 Comments
Suggested
Recent
You can donate to my vasectomy @ GoFundme.com/NoNotdanhJr
@notdanh haha one of the funniest comments i ever received
Thank you!
@KitkatSavage more power to you!! motherhood is so hard even when you have help, i know i give my mom a hard time sometimes! Trust me we appreciate a mothers love so much even if we don't show it!
There is nothing wrong with that at all! I wish I had more friends like that. I have 3 kids myself. It can be very overwhelming. I always knew that I wanted kids and I wouldn't change that for anything. Even if I am raising them all by myself.
Cards you may also be interested in
Women Are Clingy, Men Are Romantic
Why is it that when a man performs a wild, extravagant, borderline-stalker gesture, and he's SO ROMANTIC. A woman attempts to sweep a man off of his feet, and we're called crazy. Or clingy. Or obsessive. Why is it more socially acceptable for a man to overly express his emotional side but women need to play it cool when it comes to romance? Writes you letters everyday. Think of the Notebook. We're told to think that's super romantic of the guy, but if a girl did it she'd be seen as obsessed!! Throws rocks at your window. I used to fantasize about that when I was younger, hoping my crush would ride his bike over and say he loves me from the street below. But think about a girl doing that...she's probably stalking you. Shows up outside your classroom door to walk you to your next class. A guy standing outside your office or classroom door is sweet, touching, cute, but a girl might be a little obsessed with you, right? Trying to change your mind about dating them. Girls chasing after their crush telling them 'I'll treat your right!,' ' Just give me one shot,' or anything Heath Ledger said in 10 Things I Hate About You just sounds goofy to think about! Do anything annoyingly musical. Put on a performance in front of the whole school, hold up a boom box outside of your window, whatever it is, guys can do it and girls should sort of...not... Use pick up lines. Guys may get a huge eye roll for using them, but have you ever heard a girl throw out a pick up line at someone at the bar? Probably not. Ladies: Do you ever feel like you can't make any big romantic gestures? What's a romantic thing you've done? Ladies and Gentlemen: Would you be turned on or off by a girl doing a bigger romantic gesture that's usually just considered a guy thing? Personally, I'm all for everyone showing love in as many ways as they can! I'm not super into big romantic things for me personally, but I say guys and gals should be able to do whatever they want!
LGBT Pride Playlist
In light of the tragedy in Orlando, I want to make sure that everyone in this community regardless of your sexual orientation, your religious beliefs, or your political opinions, knows that you're loved. Everyone deserves to love and be loved, to live their lives how they wish, and to feel safe being themselves. Here are a few songs of encouragement, and I hope that anyone affected (which, really, should be all Americans) find peace. Amber - Borders Stand up, fall down, up again Up against the pressure I am in Slowly but surely I begin Jumping trains ‘cause I know I can win I know there’s a plan So thick the fog but I know I can trust The feelings that I feel when the roads rough Park Jungmin - Not Alone I can believe I’m not alone Not alone now, not sad anymore and I can feel it I’m not alone Definitely not alone, never be exhausted again Song Jieun - Don't Look At Me Like That Don’t look at me like that We’re just in love, that’s all Don’t hate on us, however you’re viewing us We’re just a little different Just leave us alone Can’t we live in a world where time stands still? Why? Why not? We did nothing wrong Why? Why not? We’re so in love Ailee - Heaven You taught me love in this harsh world I am happy with you alone Heaven Heaven Heaven Heaven Heaven If we're together we will never cry never never cry Heaven Heaven Heaven Heaven Heaven Forever, together never gonna be alone BTS - Save Me Listen to my heartbeat It calls you whenever it wants to Because within this pitch black darkness You are shining so brightly Go spread love today, and every day.
Game-changing Amazon Advertising Tips
Looking for ways to improve the advertising side of your Amazon business? If done right, Amazon advertising can help your product reach its target audience and drive more sales. Read on to determine the best ways to approach advertising on Amazon. Let’s get started. #1 Build brand awareness with Amazon Sponsored Brands Amazon Sponsored Brands, also referred to as headline search ads, is the key to driving more sales. These ads appear above the search results page on Amazon and help sellers build brand awareness. This is, especially beneficially for sellers who are selling multiple products in the marketplace. If you want to experience top-of-the-funnel Amazon advertising, particularly when paired with branded searches or category keywords, Sponsored Brands are ideal to go with. This gives you the opportunity to build brand recognition by incorporating entities like your ASINs, brand logo, and custom headline. #2 Have a flexible ACoS goal When it comes to Advertising Cost of Sale, the lower, the better. However, lower ACoS is not what you should be aiming for. The Advertising Cost of Sale can be explained as the ratio of your ‘ad spend’ to ‘revenue.’ For automatic targeting, Advertising Cost of Sale is at the group level, whereas for manual targeting, you get your Advertising Cost of Sale on a product level. Although low ACoS is preferred, your ad campaign should have an objective depending on whether you are trying to make ongoing profits from the product, liquidating a product, or launching a new product. For best-selling products, your main objective should be lower advertising costs. If your product is already popular among the buyers, they can easily find your product without the need for an advertisement. However, it totally changes if you are launching a new product. The ACoS should be higher (at least in the short term) for new product launches. It is useful for earning reviews and gaining traction. #3 Use the best PPC automation tool for better revenue When it comes to Amazon PPC advertising, it is a bit complex than you might think. Being an Amazon seller, especially the new one, you need additional resources to manage your PPC advertising. Your ad campaigns could be more valuable if you have an external automation tool helping you complete the important tasks rather than trying to manage your PPC ads and Amazon business at the same time. This is where SmartPPC tool comes into play. It is an Amazon PPC ad management tool that can optimize and customize your ad campaign structures. It collects, analyzes, and learns from your previous PPC ad campaign data and performs a comprehensive diagnosis. The best part, it comes with Automatic Keyword Sorting functionality that allows sellers and advertisers only to run profitable keywords and remove those that are irrelevant. #4 Make use of the Flywheel Effect While it has not reached its prominence yet, the Flywheel effect could become “the Amazon marketing strategy” for years to come. Created by Jeff Bezos, it has contributed to the success of the Amazon business model. In simple terms, the Flywheel Effect is the idea of using paid ads for generating earned media, which drives the overall growth. Paid media and earned media incorporate orders, detail page views, and reviews. On the other hand, your product content is known as ‘owned media.’ When you are implementing your ad strategy based on the Flywheel Effect, you need to ensure avoiding common mistakes of determining success based on the Advertising Cost of Sale. You need to look at the gross profit and total revenue, as well. It works in a way that when paid ads drive traffic to your listing, it will boost your product’s position on the organic search results. The increased traffic and a decent position in the Amazon organic search results page will likely increase your product’s chances of earning the “Amazon’s Choice” title. Once your product earns this designation, it will gain more attention from customers that ultimately results in more traffic. This is a continuous cycle, hence, known as the Virtuous Cycle Model. #5 Emphasize on product-level profitability Before introducing Amazon PPC into the mix, you need to understand your gross profit on a product level. Individual SKUs (stock keeping unit) boast different profit margins. Thus, it would be vital to look at more granular data. This data will give you insight on which one of your products will benefit most from PPC ads. This not only minimizes your risk but increases your profitability as well. You need to examine the product-level profitability in order to determine the products with the lowest and highest margins. There is no point in spending money on ads that you don’t know will be beneficial or not. This is a great practice followed by many successful sellers and advertisers. You will save a lot of money doing this. #6 Exclude negative keywords for reducing wasteful ad spend In order to make sure that you don’t rank for wrong search terms, you need to exclude irrelevant keywords from a larger keyword search. For example, suppose you sell $20 watches. That means you would want to rank for ‘watches’ and not ‘Tissot watches.’ In this case, ‘Tissot’ is a negative keyword. It can be a bit overwhelming when deciding what keywords are negative. The best way to start is looking for keywords that get a large volume of traffic but low conversions. If you do not exclude the negative keywords, you will be paying for the clicks that don’t convert into actual sales. In other words, you will be wasting money. However, it is not easy to determine what customers are looking for. But with the help of some Amazon seller tools, you can filter out your specific audience. Excluding negative keywords will prevent your Amazon PPC ads from showing in the searches that don’t drive conversions. Conclusion It is all about using the right strategies. Whether you are experienced or not, you need to do proper research and analyze your strategies before implementing them. Always use quality and trusted Amazon seller tools like SellerMotor for performing different tasks. If you want to know more about Amazon advertising, feel free to contact us.