The other day my friend and I were talking about relationships.
“Aly, I am usually the nice guy, but that means I am usually taken advantage of and --”
“That’s not what nice is, that’s what treating yourself like shit looks like,” I hammered.
I told him that you can be a nice person, without sacrificing your self-worth. I don’t have a lot of experience in a lot of things, but I do learn rather quickly. Something that stuck with me in my short 6 years of dating and 27 years of just living on this earth, is that you need to really claim and acknowledge how important and valuable you are.
When you establish that you are very worthy, lines are clearly drawn. You won’t allow anyone to crush you or disrespect you.
I have walked away from a couple of relationships because I began to see a shift in how I was being treated. No matter how much I cared about the person, how much I didn’t want to be alone, or how much work I already put into the relationship, respecting and loving myself comes first. All people are flawed, so there are a lot of things you may have to tolerate in a relationship. However, your partner should be there to build you up, not tear you down.
You are worthy.
You are worthy of respect, acknowledgment, and you should never stand to be treated like shit.
The people who try to treat you like the shit beneath their shoe, don’t deserve to be in your royal and worthy presence. It's their loss, not yours.