I did theater and acting for the greater part of my life, and we'll just say I have a flare for the dramatic. Here are 5 things I learned from being a drama queen and what you can gleam from it too.
1. People don't always hear you.
The foundation for acting and much of life is listening and responding. Most people don't listen, they just wait for their turn to speak. If you actively try to listen to people their motivations become clearer and their actions more justified. If we actively try to listen rather than just hear, we'll be a lot better off.
2. There's not always a reason for everything.
Sometimes things just happen. In plays and with acting it's important to understand what justifies a character's actions, but sometimes you can just chalk it up to the fact that people have bad days, or circumstances take over that nobody controls. Whatever, it's important to realize that we don't have control over everything, and sometimes that's okay.
3. People can change.
Despite human habit of becoming set in your ways, people change. They evolve, they create new things. And when the darkness or adversity creeps in on some, they cripple, but others rise to the occasion. Change happens when there is some sort of forced situation that enables it. So give people a little room to grow, but don't wait forever.
4. The truth is what you make it.
Acting is all about living truthfully in imaginary circumstances. People can convince themselves that nearly anything is right or truthful if they believe hard enough. It's good to know that people's intentions aren't always honest. It's also good to know that we all don't see the same truths. Perspective is everything. When we don't understand something or someone we need to look beyond our narrow scope, because that's where the best acting comes from, and that's where the best people are made.
5. The most important thing in this world is Trust.
I (pictured above on stage at Ohio University) spent most of my life trusting nobody. It wasn't until acting school that I started to put stake in those around me and what I could learn from others' perspectives.
In acting if you don't trust yourself and the person you're acting with, then you have nothing. Trust comes in various forms, but if we can give those close to us a little bit of it each day, and build it up to something wonderful, then we'll feel freer and better about ourselves and our lives. In my experience it's a lot easier to trust nobody than trust some.