Wow. I love this.
I think that shallow people (both sexes) have a tendency to be unable to face their own fears and hang-ups... think about it; if you are afraid to look inside yourself for answers that can unlock the doors to happiness you're going to focus externally. Sadly there are no external doors to lasting - true happiness - it is a state of being you can only reach by becoming self-aware and understanding your true self; your inner self.
Most of the really shallow men I've known (sad to say I have several who are relatives - Hi Dad!) are so deeply afraid that anyone/everyone around them will see them for what they are (lost/afraid/weak) that they avoid their fears by building a facade. And are some other words for facade? Superficial... fake... not real.... If they are afraid that they are truly not worthy of success and are a failure they'll go to great lengths to pretend to be and present to the world the illusion they are successful.
In "Shallow Hal" - his best friend - who BTW in the looks department for sure would qualify under the #2 Beyonce/Denzel Rule above - was actually afraid that he'd be rejected for having a vestigial tail.
Gives a literal meaning to his "acting like a dog" behavior. He had allowed his fear to overwhelm and control every aspect of his life and he was a miserable, sad person as a result.
The sad thing in my opinion is that so many people equate looks, financial status, and power as "winning" attributes in a companion instead of considering intelligence, kindness, and passion as key. I know many people who are more concerned about what others will think if their love interest isn't someone they feel is "presentable". And their definition of presentable is often based on the lies that popular culture has fed us for generations.
To any female reading my comments here - look in the mirror and choose to see your "imperfections" - whatever anyone would have you believe is a flaw - and understand that you are not flawed at all... you are you. And there is only one of you in the world. There will ONLY ever be one of you. And that makes you very special. Understand that you have been tricked into feeling that your unique beauty is in fact something that should be covered over or hidden or changed and that you've been told a lie your entire life so that cosmetics and clothing companies can make a lot of money.
They sell the idea of flaws and train you to look at yourself with a critical eye so they can sell you crap you don't need. I want to tell you - it makes me so sad... As a professional photographer I am surrounded by so many models that come in off the streets and they are just normal woman. They get all this hair and makeup done and I have to do this and that with the lights, etc... And it is to present a lie to you.
I can't tell you how it has hurt for me to see such beautiful women - real women - say that they hate their freckles, or hair, or eyes, or lips, or whatever - because when I see them (when most people see them) the things they've focused on are things we'd never notice. Don't allow people with a self-serving agenda tell you that you are less that beautiful. I know women who are in their 30's who color their hair to hide the slight touches of silver they've started growing. Why? What does hair color truly have to do with your value as a person?
Age is beautiful because there's something genuine and real about the journey anyone takes in life when they are blessed with opportunity to know true love. I want to celebrate every line (some call them wrinkles), every grey hair, every change that time brings as I grow older with my love. Those physical changes are a visual reminder of the journey we have shared.
I cannot stomach plastic surgery. It's a lie. It's perverse. The fact that the media and society has enslaved women (and men) into believing that without surgery - wait... think about that... SURGERY - the process of taking sharp instruments and cutting on a person's body - really? Wow.
That women and men have bought into the belief that their "best version" of themselves (I live in LA and because of Hollywood the local TV advertisements for plastic surgery are so vile and sickening - and constant) has more to do with expensive surgeries and less to do with becoming a better person from the inside. Anyway... I could go on about how sad it is to see so many beautiful women feel pressure to get surgery to be a "better version of themselves" when in fact they are already perfect in their own unique and natural way.
Lastly, about your first comment - yeah... that's a real game changer. Love isn't about control or beating someone down. Anyone who would profess to love you and then do nothing but berate you and criticize you is not anyone you should waste one second of your time on. Why? Because your partner, your love, should be the one who protects your heart and lifts you up. They should be the one who accepts you for both all of your positive and negative attributes. They should focus their love and friendship in helping you make you strengths stronger and making your weaknesses weaker. Not the other way around. When you truly are capable of loving someone you have to first be able to love yourself. That means you have to be a friend to yourself. If your best friend was being treated poorly in a relationship how would that make you feel? If you wouldn't stand for it then never allow yourself to be put in that same position. Demand respect, give respect, and go with love.