If I want something too much, it never happens. But how can it be, if I do not want it as much as it deserves?
Let's start thinking from the most basic. If I want to sleep, I can not sleep. Whenever I do not want, I can not control my eyes, and fall asleep.
If I want to write, it is impossible; but as it is now (5am), it does not matter what time it is. I want to sleep and do not want to write. Guess what am I doing right now :)
Is not the life same?
We do not want to read books at school. After we finish the school, we read more than we needed at school.
We can extend this for love, work, friendship, money, etc...
But let me say something.
Don't want anything more than the others. Let it go. Eventually, it will come to you.
Think good thoughts.
Do good things.
The good things for you will find you.