You start tip toeing up the stairs, planning to surprise him with chicken noodle soup because he was sick all weekend. You brought their favorite movie, cozy socks and your trusty humidifier. You somehow manage to slip upstairs quietly, even with your arms packed with goodies too cheer up your favorite guy in the world.
But you start to hear nosies coming from his room, the one where you have your own drawer and a toothbrush in the connecting bathroom. You know a picture of you two on your 1 year anniversary is posted on his mirror.
Wondering what is wrong behind the door you push it open with your foot, hands still full, and hear a girlish yell and a naked body toppling to the floor. You stare at him for a split second, sheet covering him up, hand out stretched attempting to what, calm you down?
You don't pay attention and run straight across the rook, grab their hair, and rip the other woman out of the bedroom.
Trust me, I would be livid too. Cheaters are pretty much the scum of the earth but heres my question.
Why do we always blame the other woman?
We spend our time resenting, plotting and shit talking the girl he cheated with meanwhile, she isn't the one whose at the most fault! Yes, maybe they did know that he was in a relationship, which makes them a bad person.
But they were not the ones dating you.
They were not the ones who took your trust and completely threw it away. Who told you they loved you, cared about you, wanted you. They weren't the ones you betrayed you.
I'm not here saying to befriend the other woman because honestly, she sucks too. But I am saying that if there is someone to be mad at (aka get revenge), its him.
We need to stop believing that boys only stray because other girls seduce them.
They stray because they wanted to. They stray because they think they can. So yes, be mad at everyone involved, but make sure you know who deserves the most blame.
And please, don't let them convince you that it wasn't their fault. Because that just makes them a cheater and a pansy.
Just remember, you deserve someone who will wake up every day and fall more in love with you. You deserve someone who will do everything just to make you smile.
You deserve someone who gets sick to their stomach at the thought of kissing someone else.
And you shouldn't forgive or put up with anything less.