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LizArnone
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Stop Blaming The Other Woman
You start tip toeing up the stairs, planning to surprise him with chicken noodle soup because he was sick all weekend. You brought their favorite movie, cozy socks and your trusty humidifier. You somehow manage to slip upstairs quietly, even with your arms packed with goodies too cheer up your favorite guy in the world.
But you start to hear nosies coming from his room, the one where you have your own drawer and a toothbrush in the connecting bathroom. You know a picture of you two on your 1 year anniversary is posted on his mirror.
Wondering what is wrong behind the door you push it open with your foot, hands still full, and hear a girlish yell and a naked body toppling to the floor. You stare at him for a split second, sheet covering him up, hand out stretched attempting to what, calm you down?
You don't pay attention and run straight across the rook, grab their hair, and rip the other woman out of the bedroom.
Trust me, I would be livid too. Cheaters are pretty much the scum of the earth but heres my question.

Why do we always blame the other woman?

We spend our time resenting, plotting and shit talking the girl he cheated with meanwhile, she isn't the one whose at the most fault! Yes, maybe they did know that he was in a relationship, which makes them a bad person.
But they were not the ones dating you.
They were not the ones who took your trust and completely threw it away. Who told you they loved you, cared about you, wanted you. They weren't the ones you betrayed you.
I'm not here saying to befriend the other woman because honestly, she sucks too. But I am saying that if there is someone to be mad at (aka get revenge), its him.
We need to stop believing that boys only stray because other girls seduce them.
They stray because they wanted to. They stray because they think they can. So yes, be mad at everyone involved, but make sure you know who deserves the most blame.
And please, don't let them convince you that it wasn't their fault. Because that just makes them a cheater and a pansy.
Just remember, you deserve someone who will wake up every day and fall more in love with you. You deserve someone who will do everything just to make you smile.
You deserve someone who gets sick to their stomach at the thought of kissing someone else.
And you shouldn't forgive or put up with anything less.
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@dreemer13 wow that is very big of you to handle a situation like that so calmly and keep the interest of the baby that wasn't even yours your main goal. A lot of women (myself included) wouldn't be able to do that! i am glad that your marriage seems to be doing better and i hope your husband continues to be faithful and I am very glad he chose you!! i hope you know that just because you were working tons of hours and not home a lot does not make the affair in anyway your fault!! You seem like am amazing and strong person. I just hope that you are also thinking of your needs as well!
@drea4u @TerrecaRiley i totally get what you guys are saying, cheating sometimes happens when there is something wrong with the relationship, i just think that better communicating could help solve the issues (even if that means ending it) would work so much better then cheating. And it would even in the long run be less hurtful
I love this card, it's something I've always wondered too! It makes no sense to only blame the woman...you should all watch The Other Woman, it's a movie all about getting revenge on a cheating guy...super empowering and funny :)