The early to mid-twenties can be a time full of absolute fear and confusion. Every once and a while we experience moments where we're completely paralyzed.
People refer to these moments as a mid-life crisis for people who are in their 40's to 50's. People get complacent and buy a nice car, spend too much money and simultaneously question everything about their lives.
Here are some questions that people ask themselves about their lives during quarter life crises. And if you're in one right now, you're not alone.
We all have these useless thoughts that end up making us beat ourselves up. Get rid of them, here's how.
"Should I have even gone to college? My degree seems useless now."
Of course you should have! I think about what would have happened if I didn't go to college all the time, and you know what, It's not worth thinking about. Having a degree is extremely important and affords you so many more opportunities. A degree is worth a lot in this world, despite what you may think. Your experiences in college were priceless and you shouldn't want to trade them.
"I don't have a boyfriend / girlfriend so I feel like a complete loser."
In your twenties, thirties, hell anytime...you should not feel pressure to find a mate. Life should be about finding the things that make you the most happy, and that doesn't necessarily include a significant other. Walk tall and cultivate your independence, make sure you know who you are outside of someone else.
Also, you're not ugly or unwanted, you just haven't found the right person yet. It'll come, just keep doing your thing.
"My diet is out of control, and I can't motivate myself to go to the gym."
Join the effing club. Fitness has been a long time struggle for me, and still is. But every day if you make it conscious that you're trying, things will be okay.
Sometimes we get really busy and end up neglecting our health, but that is just a part of life. I'm not a fitness guru, and I don't even have my stuff under control, but I know that there is more to life than reaching everyone else's ideal of beauty. If you're happy in your own skin, and feel healthy then do what you want. You don't have to answer to anyone.
"My friends are all getting great jobs, and I'm still looking."
Yeah your friends also have a different set of struggles and skills too. You can't go around comparing yourself to every single person you meet, well then you're going to be a sad individual. Focus on your own journey, what you want out of life and how to move forward can be hard to come by.
Just get yourself out there, apply for jobs in cities you want to live in, send emails, tweet popular companies you like. Do little things every day to make your dreams come true. It's a long journey, but you'll figure it out, you just have to put in the work.
"My Friends have all moved away and I'm going to be stuck in my home-town forever."
Saving money and getting away from your home town is one of the hardest things you can do. That's why over 45 percent of college grads 18 to 24 live at home. Do not destroy yourself with these thoughts of escaping and getting away. I tortured myself for a really long time and once I left, I realized that it wasn't the thing holding me back. I held myself back. Yes, small towns can be a huge deterrent for success. However, they can also be a great place for you to recharge and get your bearings. Be thankful you have some place to go back to if you fail, and always know that you control your own destiny.
Get a job, get enough money and get out. You just have to save and stay the course.
"Other people my age are doing amazing things, traveling and making a lot of money and I still feel like a little kid lost in a super-market."
Again, most of the destructive thoughts we have center on other people. We think they're doing better things, living better lives. We think they are happier, and thus having a better time. But we never know what they're going through. No matter how great things seem, there's always something happening under the surface. In order to get rid of our destructive thoughts we have to have faith that our path is the right one.
We have to believe that everything has happened for a reason, and we are exactly where we're supposed to be.