We can't go back and play with our toys, we have the world to contend with.
1. It's not easy to get a job now-a-days.
The market is horrible, people who are overqualified or have college degrees end up hanging out in their parents' basements for longer and people tend to fall back on their laurels a bit. The harsh truth, is that it's really hard to move forward in specific market without a lot of experience and the right degree. It makes life after college and high school kind of a crap shoot.
How to get over it: apply to EVERYTHING. You never know what job will find you. So get online, and visit sights like indeed.com and others, where there are reliable postings for jobs in nearly every market.
2. Things will never be the same after you leave home.
Taking your first steps into adulthood are scary. And once you actually leave your nest, things get even mroe frightening. Your life changes very quickly in adulthood, and before you know it you'll have your first big job, and you'll be on the way to a new adventure. Things won't be the same once you leave home. And even more than that your life won't be the same. It will be difficult to adjust and you'll spend a lot of time thinking about the past, but that's a natural occurrence.
How to get over it: Feelings of regret and nostalgia are going to consume you after you leave home. But the only way to get over this is to focus on the future. Write down a few things you want out of life, and keep them in the back of your mind when times get tough. You are in the right place, for the right reasons, and you have to believe in that.
3. You're going to lose touch with people.
When you don't see the same people every day, you're bound to lose touch with them. You may have thought your college friends, or people from your home town will stay with you forever, but it's just natural for them to fade away, as their lives change too. It's not a bad thing, or a good thing. It just is. The more you move away from what you knew, the less familiar it will be.
How to get over it: If you really value someone, they will find a way back into your life. If you feel like it is a great loss, reach out, but don't make an active effort for people who won't enhance your life. More often than not, the people who have the greatest impact are the ones you meet on your journey. Make room for the new people that could make your life amazing, and respect the relationships you have, but do not hold on to things that can weigh you down.
4. You're going to have to take care of yourself.
People never realize this until they're on their own. We assume that our parents and friends will always be around to pick us up when we fall, but in adulthood that is simply not the case. When we get sick, or get in trouble, we have to be our own best friend. We have to take care of ourselves. You may have to make the tough decisions and take chances on your own, without the advice of those close to you, and that can be a heavy burden to bear.
How to get over it: Part of growing up is letting go and having faith in yourself. We can build confidence over time. We can prove ourselves in our daily lives and create a sense of security through that, so when the time comes to make the hard decisions, we know ourselves. In the formative years of adulthood we have to put the steps in place to create success, so by making better choices over time we'll ultimately be able to stand on our own.
5. Adulthood is terrifying.
Bills, credit cards, paying back student loans, finding a mate, buying a house. On and on and on. My god, it's all so scary. At times we just want to crawl into bed and abandon adulthood, but we can't. It's inescapable, and we're always comparing ourselves to people we think are more successful, better looking or just cooler. It's a confusing time where we don't know which way is up and there is no way around it.
How to get over it: Everyone has to deal with this! You are not alone, in fact millennials all over the world are having these same fears, issues and problems with adjusting. The best thing you can do is to recognize that all of this is NORMAL. Nobody goes through these things easily. Our fears and doubts will only paralyze us, and if we give into the fact that we are helpless to create our own destiny, only then are we on the path to failure.