First dates don’t have to be so nerve-wracking, and yet for so many guys they are. We’ve already told you in Part I of our first date series how to prep for said date. But now it’s time to actually go on said date. Be yourself. That’s a very important thing to remember going into the actual date. While you want to impress her, I’m sure, do not force her to be impressed. As I’ve repeatedly declared, a first date should be a time when you both have a great night out doing something, getting to know each other and then generally reflecting positively on the time you’ve spent together. So I’ll tell you how do to that with some great date ideas and some places and topics you should most certainly avoid.
Coffee can actually be a nice way for the girl to check you out with a lot less pressure than dinner, drinks or any other activity. This means that your second date is also more special, because she’s already evaluated whether you’re a huge piece of shit or not.
Good Ideas For a First Date
Get drinks at a bar, where you can actually get a reservation, that serves good drinks and isn’t so loud that you can’t hear each other. If you can’t get reservations but just gosh darnit wanna try, at least have some past experience as to whether you can just walk in and get a seat. From the other side: My girlfriend actually advises that her and a few friends don’t like going for drinks, counting the drinks the guy is putting away, and more importantly the date actually has the connotation that the guy “wants to get you drunk” for “potential intercourse.” This is why you want to go for drinks that are special, rather than just getting drinks because alcohol makes you calmer. -Get dinner at a restaurant that you really like and can pre-establish she will like, too. This requires one of those pesky conversations beforehand, but also puts you back into that mode of having a good time when you get there. Dinners can be super dicey, and oftentimes both sides are afraid to eat at places that are potentially messy (BBQ, burgers, wings). If you’re feeling lucky, you can do it. You probably shouldn’t. -Coffee can actually work: While a day date can be bad news, if you can establish that it’s a date, a real date, it can actually be a nice way for the girl to check you out with a lot less pressure than dinner, drinks or any other activity. This means that your second date is also more special, because she’s already evaluated whether you’re a huge piece of shit or not. -Try out a mutually enjoyable activity. Dave and Busters, mini golf, a batting cage, whatever it is—do something casual that’s fun and low-pressure. For example, Urban Putt in San Francisco is a place you can play mini-golf and have a beer. Relaxing. Fun. You’re doing something together. Side note: Do not do this if you’re ultra-competitive. If you are that guy who is going to be a big angry baby idiot because you lost at throwing balls in a hoop, don’t do this. If you get embarrassed when you’re bad at something, don’t do this. If you are the guy who yells “YEAH, HELL YEAH, IN YOUR FACE, WOOOOOO!” no matter what menial win you get, don’t do this. For example, I’m terrible at bowling and I become a big, grumpy asshole when I try (and fail), because I have the coordination skills of a drunk walrus. Also, don’t go if you’re really, really good at the thing. She probably won’t be impressed and you’ll probably be transparently trying to show off.
Go for drinks that are special, rather than just getting drinks because alcohol makes you calmer.
Bad Ideas For a First Date